Destination DC - A Same Sex Marriage

Family matters, and it's always great when couples bring their kids to their private destination wedding in Washington, DC.  Going beyond that, Erin and Cassandra even brought their unique style and sweet personality.  From officiating their wedding, meeting their kids, to shooting their photos, I enjoyed every moment I spent working with this fabulous couple. 

Congratulations to Erin and Cassandra!























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Trash the Dress Session in Baltimore Maryland (Part 1)

With Aspiring DC / Baltimore Wedding Photo-Artist Starlene Joyner Burns
















Those of you who have been keeping up with me Starlene Joyner Burns, DC Wedding Officiant; on Facebook know that for the past 1.5 years I have been diligently studying photography.   With these new skills, I have added a photography section to SJB Ministries LLC.  Yes, many mega churches have a photography ministry.   And since I have talent in the arts, I rolled up my artist sleeves; and made my transition from fine arts (sculpting, painting, drawing); to digital images.
So I will share many of my DC elopement couples here, a little classy boudoir (for those who wish to heal from past pain or gift their partner with some beautiful alluring images of themselves). 
Some people may think that a ministry should not promote relationship healing or strengthening through sexy imagery of their spouse.  But in pre-wedding coaching, sex is a topic that is always discussed.  And fidelity is strongly advised.  

Sexy images will not destroy a healthy trusting relationship, but they will send a strong message. 

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The Knot Best of Weddings 2013 Winner



Press Release

Chapel of Love Ceremonies by SJB Ministries LLC
Wins The Knot Best of Weddings 2013


FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Chapel of Love Ceremonies by Rev. SJB Ministries LLC
NAMED TOP PICK IN
THE KNOT BEST OF WEDDINGS 2013

Washington, DC (January 29, 2013) -- Chapel of Love Ceremonies by SJB Ministries LLC is pleased to announce it has been selected as a 2013 ­­winner in The Knot Best of Weddings, a special section featured on TheKnot.com/BOW.  TheKnot.com is the number-one wedding destination, most trusted by brides.

This is the third year Chapel of Love Ceremonies by SJB Ministries LLC has been voted the

WINNER for The Knot Best of Weddings.

The Knot Best of Weddings 2013 provides a “by brides, for brides” guide to the top wedding professionals across the country, and is a must-have when it comes to selecting the best-of-the-best wedding resources. Whether they’re trying to find the wedding dress salon with the best service in Philadelphia, the most creative wedding photographers in Los Angeles, New York’s top cake bakers or Miami’s hottest reception sites, engaged couples across the country want the inside scoop on the best from real brides.

“I am always honored to receive this award.  And I am most grateful to all the brides and grooms who spoke so highly of my ministry through their reviews of my service.  If not for those rave reviews , receiving this award another year would not be possible. “   Rev. Starlene Joyner Burns 

For more information, please contact weddingreviews@theknot.com.


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Chapel of Love Ceremonies Wins 2013 Bride's Choice Award



 
Press Release


SJB Ministries LLC  by CHAPEL OF LOVE CEREMONIES


2013 Wedding Wire Bride’s Choice Award Winner


Washington, DC – January 25, 2013 – WeddingWire, the nation's leading online wedding marketplace, is thrilled to announce that Chapel of Love Ceremonies by SJB Ministries LLC has been selected as a winner of the prestigious WeddingWire Bride’s Choice Awards® 2013 for Officiant in Washington, DC!

The esteemed annual awards program recognizes the top five percent of wedding professionals in the WeddingWire Network who demonstrate excellence in quality, service, responsiveness and professionalism.


Chapel of Love Ceremonies by SJB Ministries LLC’s selection as a Bride’s Choice Award 2013 winner was selected based on the positive experiences expressed by past clients on WeddingWire, the world’s largest wedding review site with over one million reviews.  While many industry awards are given by the host organization, the WeddingWire Bride’s Choice Awards® winners are determined solely based on reviews from real newlyweds and their experiences working with Chapel of Love Ceremonies by SJB Ministries LLC.

The WeddingWire Bride’s Choice Awards® 2013 are given to the top local wedding vendors in more than 20 service categories, from wedding venues to wedding photographers, based on professional achievements from the previous year. Award-winning vendors are distinguished for the quality, quantity, consistency and timeliness of the reviews they have received from their past clients.  As a Bride’s Choice Awards winner, Chapel of Love Ceremonies by SJB Ministries LLC is highlighted within the WeddingWire Network, which is comprised of over 200,000 wedding professionals throughout the United States, Canada and abroad.

“Each year, WeddingWire looks forward to celebrating the success of the top-rated wedding professionals within the WeddingWire Network,” said Timothy Chi, CEO, WeddingWire. “Now in its fifth year, the Bride’s Choice Awards® program continues to recognize the elite wedding professionals who exemplify a commitment to quality, service and professionalism. These businesses were chosen by our bridal community for their responsiveness and dedication to their clients over the past year. We are honored to recognize Chapel of Love Ceremonies by SJB Ministries LLC for their impressive achievements within the wedding industry.”

Chapel of Love Ceremonies by SJB Ministries LLC is thrilled to be one of the top Officiant in Washington, DC in the WeddingWire Network of sites, which include leading wedding sites such as WeddingWire, Project Wedding, Brides.com, Martha Stewart Weddings, and Weddingbee. We would like to thank our past clients for taking the time to review our business on WeddingWire. We value all of our clients and truly appreciate the positive feedback that helped us earn the WeddingWire Bride’s Choice Awards® for 2013.

For more information about Chapel of Love Ceremonies by SJB Ministries LLC, please visit our WeddingWire Storefront today at http://www.weddingwire.com/biz/chapel-of-love-ceremonies-by-sjb-ministries/d60c7b4f40e98e0f.html.

To learn more about the Bride's Choice Awards®, please visit www.WeddingWire.com/brides-choice-awards.


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Clergy United in Support of Marriage Equality in Maryland

Many clergy came together on Friday, February 10, 2012 in support of our gay and lesbian people to legally marry in Maryland.  Pictured here is the first group.  Others came later to give their testimony.

Some of us were there from 1:00 pm until 12:00 midnight waiting to testify in favor of HB 438.  My testimony was at 7:45 pm.  And I arrived at 2:30 pm for a 3 pm - 4 pm time slot.

Here is my testimony.

I am, Rev. Starlene Joyner Burns of SJB Ministries LLC in Bowie Maryland.

When I started my ministry in 2006, it was to serve everyone without a church home; including our gay and lesbian people.  My ministry serves those needing pastoral guidance, spiritual healing, relationship coaching, or officiating service for their nuptial.

Because of this work, I can tell you today, that there is no difference between gay relationships and straight ones.  Gay and lesbian couples have the same problems, same hopes, same dreams; that straight couples have for their relationship and their family. 

The only thing that’s missing here in Maryland is that they cannot legally get married and provide the kind of protection that a marriage certificate brings. 

Yes, that piece of paper that's so meaningless to some.   Has a whole lot of meaning for those who can't get it. 

Can you imagine being with someone for 30 years and that person was suddenly taken out of this world.  Try to keep in mind that she’s the sole provider. And you had nothing to worry about, other than taking care of the family.

The mortgage was paid every month, all the bills were paid on time, including the kids' college tuition, your credit cards, and that expensive car note. 

In a heterosexual marriage scenario, like this one; the financial fear wouldn't exist, because the surviving spouse would know of her entitlements.  Other than grieving the lost of her spouse, she would still have health insurance, survival compensation, a house that becomes hers, and all the bells and whistles that go with being a widow. 

In a same sex couples relationship, survival benefits don't exist.  There would be no health insurance to roll over, no social security, no pension, and definitely no retirement benefits to collect from the lost of a partner.

That’s why; we need this change. 

While these protections are vital to families, marriage is about a whole lot more.  Marriage makes families stronger.

It allows two people the opportunity to stand before their family and friends and make the public commitment to take on the responsibilities that marriage affords.

God created all of us to be equal, straight, gay, lesbian.

We’re all created in absolute perfection.

I support this bill because it recognizes that religious freedom and marriage equality go hand in hand.

Therefore I hope you pass HB  438, and make Maryland an equal and just state.

Thank you

The end
_______________________________

To all our gay and lesbian people;

I can only pray that you do not lose hope in religion and do not associate religious equality leaders with those who oppose your divine self. 

God loves all, and does not discriminate. 

Man is the only being on earth who is capable of destroying a race or a group of like minded people.   

I'm not asking you, right now, to forgive those who have persecuted you.

But I am asking you to start the healing process, by forgiving yourself for feeling shame, unworthiness, frustration, and even hate that has been created within you by those claiming to represent our caring, giving, and loving God.



For this I am grateful.

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“Grant Marriage Rights, Not Rites”

When Governor O'Malley introduced the Civil Marriage Protection Act of 2012, faith leaders from many denominations enthusiastically stood by him in support. As ordained ministers, we do as well.

Under the Governor's proposal, no church or religious institution would have to marry a gay couple. In other words, nothing changes from the way things are now. We have refused to marry straight couples in the past, and will continue to do so in the future even if same-sex marriage becomes law.

So, we say to our concerned congregants: Your church isn't going to be forced to perform gay nuptials.

Our gay and lesbian people are not asking to marry in a church that does not embrace their belief or culture. They're asking for the right to go down to the courthouse and obtain a marriage license. This right is the only thing the Governor's proposed legislation creates, nothing more and nothing less.

But what happens in church is not really what this debate is all about.

Gays and lesbians are asking to be able to go down to the courthouse for a marriage license, which is the only thing the Governor's legislation calls for.

Committed and loving gay and lesbian couples want to give their kids the legal protections that marriage offers.

Currently, children in straight households live under one set of laws while the children of gay families live under another set of laws. That's wrong. We are all children of God, and every child deserves to be protected equally in the eyes of the law.

People understand that marriage builds a family, but they also comprehend that couples don't decide to get married for the rights and benefits. Straight, gay and lesbian couples choose to marry because they value commitment, love and companionship.

Marriage is about two loving individuals standing up and making a public promise of lifelong commitment and responsibility. This is why the government should make way for stronger families through marriage.

Our understanding of scripture is that God loves and embraces us all. We are called by this compassionate God to ensure the promise of love and equality under the law for all families. Let's do right by our gay and lesbian neighbors, friends, family and co-workers - and their kids. It's time for all families to be treated equally under the law. It's time for marriage equality.

by Rev. Angela Shepherd and Rev. Starlene Joyner Burns

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Another Round to Win Same Sex Marriage in Maryland

As much as I would love to stay on top of all the latest weddings trends, I have to focus some of my attention on the marriage equality issue in Maryland.  This topic is important and very close to my heart. 

And there is no better way to kick off the new year than to do it with a press conference.  Governor O'Malley started the year off right by the introduction of a new marriage equality bill called the "Civil Marriage Protection Act of 2012."

This bill as before, provides protection to religious organizations, churches, and clergy who do not want to serve same sex couples.

And I had the opportunity to speak at a press conference on January 24, 2012 at Governor O'Malley's mansion in support of  this bill.




And on January 31, 2012, I spoke again at the press conference following the Faith Leaders Prayer Breakfast.




Ministers are uniting for this cause.  Because we recogize that our gay and lesbian people need our help to bring equality to Maryland.   And we are not giving up until justice is equal.



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Don't Ask Don't Tell (DADT) DC Marriage Special



Rev. Starlene Joyner Burns an award winning wedding officiant and supporter for marriage equality will be showing her support for the ending of DADT by performing free personalized elopements and signature rituals for all active military same gender loving couples who are ready to tie the knot in Washington, DC.


You can book your free wedding anytime.  Ceremonies will be held Monday - Friday, 3 pm - 4 pm in the District of Columbia.  Offer ends November 10, 2011.


And if you need assistance in processing your DC marriage license, Rev. Burns will process that for you for a small fee.

Then all you have to do is show up in Washington DC and tie the knot.

Ceremonies will be performed by appointment only (location will be disclosed to the couple).


To book your signature ritual or elopement (limited to 4 guests) and to arrange for the processing of your marriage license; call 202.253.3629 or email Rev. Burns revsjb@comcast.net.  

Phone calls are received Monday - Friday, 11 am - 7 pm EST.



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Weddings at the Swann House Bed and Breakfast

Each time I am invited to officiate a wedding at the Swann House, I know that it will be an elegant affair.   It does not matter the size of the wedding, Rick the Inn's manager, always creates a welcoming environment.




The Swann House is across the street from a doggie park, and close to the White House, DC tourist sites, National Zoo, DC Convention Center, Kennedy Center, and more.  They even got a swimming pool.





I would recommend this venue for an intimate weddings for two or a medium size weddings with up to 75 guests to all.  And if you need an officiant for your fabulous event, call me.



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Marriage Equality Supporter & DC Marriage License Agent
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Getting Married in DC "Holiday Inn Georgetown "

This hotel is nestled in a beautiful affluent section of Washington, DC.   So from staying - to enjoying your wedding; Georgetown offers an array of pleasure pleasing opportunities for you and your guest.  The nightlife of this city buzzes with jazz, while the Kennedy Center is live with performances, and the food choices are pleothera.   You can explore the sites of Washington DC, Virginia, or Maryland during the day; and enjoy your evening relaxing by the DC waterfront.  Therefore, I have no problem recommending this venue to you. 

I toured this place and saw all it's attractions, the rooms, suites, banquet halls, and restaurant, are all well decorated.   So think about booking your stay or wedding at the Holiday Inn Georgetown. 

Tell Ingrid, you found their venue on Washington DC Weddings with Rev. SJ Burns.

  



If you like, you can have an elopement in the gardens 
of Montrose Park or the Georgetown Waterfront near Sequoia. 

Of course there are many locations in DC for a beautiful elopement,
I'm just sharing with you what's within blocks of this venue.




If you are ready to start your wedding or elopement plans, call me Rev. SJ Burns, 202.253.3629.

For your venue, stay, and catering needs (10 or more guests) call Ingrid.  Her contact info is below.


Ingrid Gregory
Director of Catering
Holiday Inn Georgetown
2101 Wisconsin Ave, NW
Washington, DC 20007
(202) 338-3120 ext. 7260
FAX (202) 338-4458


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Gay Marriage in New York - Court Clerks Quit

It's been a while since I wrote about gay marriages.  After the Maryland marriage equality bill was tabled for another year, my enthusiasm disappeared.  And with the win in New York last month, my momentum started returning.

New York has taken the position of being the 6th state to offer same-gender loving couples the opportunity to wed.  Yes, gay marriages will be happening in New York on Sunday, July 24.  This is great news, and I'm happy for all New Yorkers who have waited years for this to happen.

However, there is a sadness to this great victory.  Court clerks are quiting their jobs because they refuse to sign marriage licenses for same-gender loving couples or perform their ceremonies.   These are some bold city clerks, for them to think that pubic discrimination is ok, is just insane.  

With them quiting their jobs, they open the doors for a pleathor of officiants ready to work.   And I'm one of those gay friendly officants ready to perform my job.  I got my authorization to perform marriages in New York on July 12.  Why you might ask, because I love my job, and I love what I do.  And it's my way of showing support for my same-gender loving families. 

I'll be in New York on July 26.  If you're thinking of getting married on that day, send me a message.  I'll be in Manhattan.  
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Destination Wedding "Washington DC"


From Australia to DC this handsome (biker) couple, Jason and Benton, decided that Washington DC was the place for their elopement.  They had planned a world tour of the US with DC being the first stop.  And on April 26, 2011, this couple said their vows under the beautiful sky of Malcolm X Park. 

I'm glad they decided that I would be the one to officiate their wedding and walk them through the DC marriage license filing process.  They were able to get a wavier of the 3 day waiting period.  How sweet. 

I took some of these pictures.  The ones that show creativity, of course.







  
 









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Marriage Equality Supporter & DC Marriage License Agent
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Change, Change, Change "Father and Daughter Dance"

Congratulations Kim & Ted!

This couple tied the knot on May 1, 2011 at the Adelphi Mills. There was an overcast in the sky that day and a little drizzle softly touched their guests with the blessings of God, Spirit of Life.

Later, Kim and her Dad captured their guests’ with this little number.

No, this is not one of those boring father and daughter dances you always see. This bride left nothing to chance, she covered everything every carefully; from the timing of everything, to the ceremony words that included a chance of rain, and even this little choreographed dance with her father.


This video would be awesome if taken by a professional videographer.  
But it's not about quality, it's about having a good time with family and friends.


Venue:  Adelphi Mills

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Marriage Equality Supporter & DC Marriage License Agent
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Circle of Love - Rachael & Kristin's Big Day

DC was not too far away for these two love birds.  Travelling from Pittsburgh they tied the knot in our Nations Capitol at the Arts Club of Washington on March 18, 2011.  The weather was perfect for their elegant and small affair. 

Rachael and Kristin were surrounded by their closest and dearest family.  Each person had an opportunity to participate in a blessing stone ritual.  The family imbued their individual wishes for the couple into a stone.  Rachael and Kristin collected the stones and placed them around their unity candle.  As the couple lit the candle their family wishes went forth into the Universe.

This was followed by the family encircling the couple to represent completion, family unity, and strength.  Rachael and Kristin recited their vows within a circle of true love.








From the hearts of Rachael and Kristin

"Our family is a circle of strength and love.
With every birth and every union, the circle grows.
Every joy shared adds more love.
Every crisis faced together makes the circle stronger."

Arts Club of Washington DC
2017 I St., NW
Washington, DC 20006
202-331-7282
http://www.artsclubofwashington.com/csite/photos.htm

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Marriage Equality Supporter & DC Marriage License Agent
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Costco Selling Wedding Gowns & Wegmans Selling Floral Designs

I thought I would share this article. The author says that Costco is not only snatching the budget brides away from small companies, but also the big spenders.

Costco and wedding dresses: Costco says 'I do' to selling wedding gowns - fox59.com

And Wegmans Woodmore is also in the wedding game. They are offering formal floral designs at rates that can drive a small florist out of business.

Sure these companies bring needed jobs to the community, but they are also taking business away from those who have depended on neighbors like you to support their establishment.

So what will you do, continue supporting small businesses or the corporate giants?  You can support the corporate giants for what they supply Wegmans (groceries), Costco (bulk items).  And you can continue supporting the small businesses for their products or services. 

Don't trade in, stay committed to supporting those you like.  They have a family to feed and take care of just like you.


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History Stalled "Civil Marriage Protection Act on Hold"

Yesterday, the road to marriage equality in Maryland ended with a vote to recommit the bill back to the House Judiciary Committee. This news crushed the hopes and dreams of many same sex couples in Maryland who felt their time had come to be treated equally. 

There are those who believe that the bill stands a better chance of winning next year when the committee takes another look at it.  Supporters of the bill want to know how their delegates are going to vote.  And this past Friday, there were some uncertainty in about that.

This stalemate has thrown many supporters off their game.  However, Equality Maryland vows to use this time to regroup and come back a stronger advocate to win marriage equality in Marryland.

So keep supporting Equality Maryland.   They need your continued help.

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Equal but not Protected "Tearing Down Walls"

Last week, the Maryland House Judiciary Committee voted 12-10 in favor of HB 175 "Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Protection Act."  This means that the same sex marriage bill (SB 116:  Civil Marriage Protection Act) will move to the House of Delegates for a vote.  If the bill passes by the majority, then same sex marriages will become legal in Maryland once the governor signs off on it. 

This weekend I met with 4 couples, and I officiated one same sex marriage in Washington, DC. Even though, I enjoyed meeting and serving every one of them; two couples stood out. The first couple wed at a local hotel in DC.  And at the end of their wedding, the lady/groom gave me a big hug while whispering “we really appreciate you,” in my ear.

The second was a straight African American couple. The bride said to me at the conclusion of our meeting that she was glad to read of my support for marriage equality. At that moment, the walls of fear that were built around me suddenly shattered. These walls had been created through the incorrect reporting by the media on the African American stance on marriage equality.  And those walls were reinforced by my own fear of religious reprisal from the opposition.

Sure there are those in the African American religious community who are against same sex marriages, as in every racial community in this country. According to the 2009 US Census the African American population in this country is 12.9%, White 79.6%, and Latino 15.8%, etc. As you can see, the African American votes, alone, could never bring a victory (for or against) any law. 

So what is really missing?  And why aren't there more LGBT supporters showing up at marriage equality rallies, meetings, and mixers? Is there a lack of interest, lack of awareness, fear of reprisal, or religious training that keeps them away? The National Organization for Marriage (an anti-gay marriage group) preaches messages of opposition from the pulpits and radio stations with regularity. Their information is being disseminated over the internet, newspapers, billboards, mailings everyday to support their cause.  This group has made allies with most (if not all) religious Americans.

And supporters for marriage equality need to form the same kind of alliance with supporters from all ethnicity.  Using the civil rights movement of the 60's may not level the playing field in gaining African American support. Making interracial people feel guilty because of antiquated marriage laws, may not sway their support either.  As well as showing religious leaders and church goers that their interpretation of biblical scripture is wrong, for God is love, won't work.

There is a way to reach all people who are sympathizers of marriage equality.  And I believe it is through educating them.  Most heterosexuals and many (religious and non-religious) gay and lesbians are not aware of the intricate issues of this movement.  And disseminating information to enlighten them is paramount.

In the past, I spoke with a lesbian religious leader and was told that she did not believe in two people of the same gender getting married.  Therefore, she would not officiate same sex marriages.  This was shocking to me.  And to date, I get calls from lesbians supporting that same belief and questioning my position on the issue.

People need to be educated, and slogans like, “I love who I love,” “Standing on the Side of Love,” etc. don’t drive the message of injustice home.  

"Equal but not Protected,” "Marriage Matters," makes a big difference.

So let me share some facts on this issue in hopes of educating some of you.  I want you to understand why same sex couples want marriage protection. 

Nolo Law:  Marriage Rights and Benefits, http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/marriage-rights-benefits-30190.html.  This is what's missing in the life of committed same sex couples and heterosexual couples who don't tie the knot.

U.S. Census Bureau: (State and County Facts), http://quickfacts.census.gov/qfd/index.html.  This will let you know the racial ratio state by state.  So you know that African Americans cannot stop change.

David Kaufman article was very inspiring to me "The Root: The Misjudged Black Vote On Gay Marriage,"   http://www.npr.org/2011/03/04/134257733/the-root-the-misjudged-black-vote-on-gay-marriage.  That's why I wrote this blog.

Senate Bill 116 (Civil Marriage Protection Act) can be read at:  http://mlis.state.md.us/2011rs/bills/sb/sb0116t.pdf, http://mlis.state.md.us/2011rs/billfile/sb0116.htm.

It is my hope that you will join me in prayer (anytime) and become a supporter for marriage equality.  Equality Maryland needs your help in making this a reality.  http://equalitymaryland.org/

So join the fight, don't stand on the sidelines waiting for others to make your life better, become part of history by getting involved.

Laws change people and their opinions all the time.  The religious leader that I spoke about, changed just as soon as the DC marriage equality law went into effect.  She now wants to marry her partner, and she's willing to perform same sex marriages. 

Tearing down walls, start with people changing the minds of others. 

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