During the excitement of the engagement, emotions run high. And selecting the wedding party becomes spontaneous as you yield to the awe of happiness that flows in and out of your body. So you end up with a melange of attendants. Some of them cooperative, while others are bossy, stubborn, or unreliable.
Now what's a girl to do?
Now what's a girl to do?
Bridal Party Selection Guidelines 101:
Selecting your bridal party is never an easy task. There are just too many people who want to have roles, but there are only so many to go around. So select your bridesmaids, groomsmen, maid or matron of honor by their character and willingness to help you to create an event to remember.
Your wedding party should be people who are dependable and will not disappoint you for spite.
They should be willing to change if necessary to show how much they want to support you and your partner.
They should be understanding and forgiving.
They should be cooperative and willing to do the work they are assigned.
They should be reliable and willing to show up for the rehearsal and fitting on time, and early for the wedding.
They should not show any resistance to your ideas, but offer suggestions to add to your creative production.
They should be willing to sacrifice their own plans if necessary.
They should be willing to prioritize their schedule.
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Final Guidelines:
Establish a budget for your wedding.
Select your venue, then determine the size of your bridal party. Will the space accommodate a large group or just a small one. A large bridal party in a small space would block the view of your parents.
Create a list of those you want and those who have volunteered. Then narrow that list down to those who are reliable, cooperative, loyal, and have the right attitude. If you allow looks, size, friendship, obligation, or other sentiments to play a part in your wedding party selection then be prepared to wear many hats.
Decide on how much money you will allocate for accessories or amenities, such as makeup, hairstyle, manicure/pedicure, jewelry, yoga class, spa treatment, etc.
Have a backup for those who quit (this is for a small wedding party).
Think about the rehearsal date and time (be familiar with your crew's job demands (not all surgeons will be on time)).
For small attendants, select them by the behavior of their parents, because they will be responsible for their child's attendance.
If you want your bridal party to pay for their clothing, accessories, and amenities, then make sure you select those who can afford it.
Remember; cooperation, cooperation, cooperation, and maybe a little money (those are the deciding factors).
____________________________________________
Reverend Starlene Joyner Burns
202.253.3629
mailto:revsjb@comcast.net
http://www.startum.com/weddings.htm
©2009 All Rights Reserved
If you have anything to add to this list; kindly leave your comments. I will be happy to add your recommendations.
Selecting your bridal party is never an easy task. There are just too many people who want to have roles, but there are only so many to go around. So select your bridesmaids, groomsmen, maid or matron of honor by their character and willingness to help you to create an event to remember.
Your wedding party should be people who are dependable and will not disappoint you for spite.
They should be willing to change if necessary to show how much they want to support you and your partner.
They should be understanding and forgiving.
They should be cooperative and willing to do the work they are assigned.
They should be reliable and willing to show up for the rehearsal and fitting on time, and early for the wedding.
They should not show any resistance to your ideas, but offer suggestions to add to your creative production.
They should be willing to sacrifice their own plans if necessary.
They should be willing to prioritize their schedule.
_____________________________________
Final Guidelines:
Establish a budget for your wedding.
Select your venue, then determine the size of your bridal party. Will the space accommodate a large group or just a small one. A large bridal party in a small space would block the view of your parents.
Create a list of those you want and those who have volunteered. Then narrow that list down to those who are reliable, cooperative, loyal, and have the right attitude. If you allow looks, size, friendship, obligation, or other sentiments to play a part in your wedding party selection then be prepared to wear many hats.
Decide on how much money you will allocate for accessories or amenities, such as makeup, hairstyle, manicure/pedicure, jewelry, yoga class, spa treatment, etc.
Have a backup for those who quit (this is for a small wedding party).
Think about the rehearsal date and time (be familiar with your crew's job demands (not all surgeons will be on time)).
For small attendants, select them by the behavior of their parents, because they will be responsible for their child's attendance.
If you want your bridal party to pay for their clothing, accessories, and amenities, then make sure you select those who can afford it.
Remember; cooperation, cooperation, cooperation, and maybe a little money (those are the deciding factors).
____________________________________________
Reverend Starlene Joyner Burns
202.253.3629
mailto:revsjb@comcast.net
http://www.startum.com/weddings.htm
©2009 All Rights Reserved
If you have anything to add to this list; kindly leave your comments. I will be happy to add your recommendations.
